When should incest between consenting adults be allowed and when should it not be allowed?

It should always be allowed between consenting adults. But that doesn’t mean it is always a good idea.

CONSENSUAL incest is not wrong. (Abuse victims: being abused by a relative does not make it wrong for others to have consensual incest, any more than rape by a stranger makes all sex wrong. Sex and assault/molestation are two different things.) An aversion became common in humans that aided in population growth as one disease couldn’t wipe out the human race. That’s not a problem anymore.

Consensual incest is very common. You know people who have been involved, whether you know it or not.

There is no rational reason for keeping laws or taboos against consensual
incest that is consistently applied to other relationships. Personal disgust or religion is only a reason why one person would not want to personally engage in what I call consanguinamory, not why someone else shouldn’t do it. An adult should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with ANY consenting adults. Youthful experimentation between close relatives close in age is not uncommon, and there are more people than you’d think out there who are in lifelong healthy, happy relationships with a close relative. It isn’t for everyone, but we’re not all going to want to have each others’ love lives, now are we? If someone thinks YOUR love life is disgusting, should you be thrown in prison?

Some people try to justify their prejudice against consanguineous sex and
marriage by being part-time eugenicists and saying that such relationships inevitably lead to “mutant” or “deformed” babies. This argument can be refuted on several fronts.

1. Some consanguineous relationships involve only people of the same gender.

2. Not all mixed-gender relationships birth biological children.

3. Most births to consanguineous parents do not produce children with significant birth defects or other genetic problems; while births to other parents do sometimes have birth defects.

4. We don’t prevent other people from marrying or deny them their reproductive rights based on increased odds of passing along a genetic problem or inherited disease.

It is true that in general, children born to consanguineous parents have an increased chance of these problems than those born to nonconsanguineous parents, but the odds are still minimal. Unless someone is willing to deny reproductive rights and medical privacy to others and force everyone to take genetic tests and bar carriers and the congenitally disabled and women over 35 from having children, then equal protection  principles prevent this from being a justification to bar this freedom of association and freedom to marry.

Some say “Your sibling should not be your lover.” That is not a reason. It begs the question. Many people have many relationships that have more than one aspect. Some women say their sister is their best friend. Why can’t their sister be a wife, too?

Some say “There is a power differential.” This applies least of all to siblings or cousins who are close in age, but even where the power  differential exists, it is not a justification for denying this freedom  to sex or to marry. There is a power differential in just about any  relationship, sometimes an enormous power differential. To question if  consent is truly possible in these cases is insulting and demeaning.

Some say “There are so many people outside of your family.” There are plenty of people within one’s own race, too, but that is no reason to ban interracial marriage. So, this isn’t a good reason either. Let consenting adults love each other the way they want!

Chibombo man caged 20 yrs for incest

Chibombo man caged 20 yrs for incest

KABWE High Court Judge Elita Mwikisa has sentenced a 33-year-old Chisamba farmer to 20 years imprisonment with hard labour after he was found guilty of having sex with his 14-year biological daughter.

In March this year, the 14- year-old girl broke down as she narrated before Kabwe Magistrate Mary Chibanga how her biological father had carnal knowledge of her after he allegedly gagged and tied her to a bed.

In her ruling, Judge Mwikisa said it was saddening that the man who is supposed to protect the child could act in such a manner and that he was sending him to prison to deter other would be offenders.

During the hearing of the case, the girl who was 12 years old when the incident happened and is now 14, told Magistrate Chibanga that on the fateful day her father followed her in the house where she had gone to get mealie meal to prepare nshima and she was shocked that her father took her by her hands and covered her mouth and face before tying both her hands and legs to the bed using a chitenje material.

The girl could not hold back her tears immediately after identifying her father who was in the dock prompting Magistrate Chibanga to allow her to speak from chambers.

Ms Chibanga later committed Elvis Chitindi a farmer of Chisamba to the Kabwe High Court for sentencing after he was found guilty of the offence of incest contrary to Laws of Zambia.

Facts before the court were that on December 3, 2010, the accused person allegedly took advantage of the absence of her step mother who was away in Lusaka in having canal knowledge of her.

The girl who was sobbing when testifying led by State prosecutor Aaron Kuyeli said after the act she managed to sneak out of the house and ran to her grandmother within Chisamba area where she reported the matter.

Her father had threatened to kill her should she reveal the incident to anyone.

The following morning her father followed her and rebuked her and took her back home.

When her stepmother came back, she narrated to her what had transpired and the matter was immediately reported to the police.

Later medical examinations were conducted. But in his defence the convict who earlier during the trial denied the charge, admitted after three witnesses were called to testify against him.

In his defence, Chitindi said he had sex with his daughter because he wanted to teach her as she had come of age. / Times of Zambia

Tips to Help Sexually Abused Victims Overcome Their Fear of Pap smears

Tips to Help Sexually Abused Victims Overcome Their Fear of Pap smears

Every two minutes someone in the country is sexually assaulted, according to the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN).  Victims of sexual assault or abuse are three times more likely to suffer from depression, as well as a host of other mental conditions. A new study also indicates victims are more likely to skip Pap smears.

In a study published in the Journal of Family Planning and Reproductive Health Care, researchers instructed volunteers to complete a survey on the National Association for People Abused in Childhood (NAPAC) website. The survey included closed questions on demographic characteristics and cervical screening attendance. Open ended questions included discussed barriers to screening. A content analysis was used to decipher the responses.

The results revealed only 49 percent of women who were abused as children underwent cervical screening compared to 79 percent of the general population.

“One way of coping with the trauma of sexual abuse is to control or avoid the triggers of trauma responses,” researchers wrote. “Intimate gynecological examinations can be particularly stressful for women who have been abused because of the parallels with the abuse situation, for example, perceived loss of control, the power disparity, and the physical sensation of the examination.”

Though the fear of reliving the feelings of shame, guilt, self-blame and feeling unclean, contaminated or dirty may inhibit victims of sexual abuse from undergoing cervical cancer screenings, it is imperative they do. Women who have been sexually abused are more likely to develop cervical lesions in addition to participating in risky behavior such as drug or alcohol abuse.

However, Sarah Kelly, training and development manager at the abuse survivors’ support association, was able to compose a list of steps successfully taken by sexually assaulted victims to improve their experience.

These tips include:

  • The survivor having time and space to talk about their fears and anxieties of having the test.
  • A friend or supporter being present during the test.
  • The smear taker having an understanding and insight into the issues of childhood abuse and the legacy of issues that adult survivors can face.
  • A discussion of words/responses which would trigger anxiety or flashbacks for a survivor and finding alternative ‘safe’ words to replace these. For example, many smear takers would tell the woman to try to relax during the test. The word ‘relax’ is often used by abusers and can be very frightening for survivors; an alternative is to agree a word in advance to use in discussions with the patient.
  • A private and comfortable environment for undressing and for the smear test to be taken.
  • A clear signal agreed beforehand for the woman to be able to halt the test if she needs to at any stage.

Read more at http://www.medicaldaily.com/articles/12469/20121002/tips-help-sexually-abused-victims-overcome-fear.htm#ScqVg0xskQ1LOa8Y.99

Rape and incest case is put off for 81st time

Rape and incest case is put off for 81st time

HE sentencing of a man convicted of raping and fathering three children with his 13-year-old daughter was postponed for the 81st time in the Nelspruit Regional Court yesterday.

This time because the 54-year-old man’s lawyer, advocate D Chambale, was absent, prosecutor Elise du Plessis told the court.

At 9.24am, the accused’s wheelchair was pushed into courtroom two. He was wearing a grey sweater and a fawn gown.

The door leading to the passageway to the cells was locked and an officer left him sitting in his wheelchair next to the door, about 1.5-metres from where Du Plessis stood. A few moments later, he tried to get up from the wheelchair. He looked tired and sick.

But court officials, including Du Plessis, had seen “the act” before.

Since April 2 2008 when the father was convicted on nine counts of rape and alternative charges of incest, he has caused much drama every time he appeared in court for sentencing.

The accused was found guilty of raping his daughter from 1998 to February 2006 and fathering three children with her

Casey Anthony daughter a child of incest suggests lawyer

Casey Anthony daughter a child of incest suggests lawyer

Casey Anthony’s daughter could be a child of incest according to her lawyer. On July 7 it was reported that Jose Baez discussed new evidence about who Caylee Anthony’s father really is. Baez revealed that Caylee Anthony’s dad might also be her grandfather, based on things that Casey told him over a year ago.

According to the New York Daily News, Casey was sexually abused by her dad and feared that her daughter’s real father was her own father. In fact, George supposedly stopped abusing Casey because he feared getting her pregnant.

“[George Anthony] sat for perhaps 40 seconds with his head bowed. He didn’t say a word. We certainly noted that he didn’t deny it,” Baez wrote in his book, detailing the time when George was spoken to about his granddaughter’s DNA test.

Casey Anthony’s daughter is not a child of incest according to DNA tests that were conducted, but Casey and her dad were always very skeptical about Caylee’s biological male parent—and Baez picked up on this. The whole family was very evasive when it came to questioning and their oddities made people believe more and more than Casey really did kill her little girl. Could it be that Casey’s parents assisted in Caylee’s murder? Many people believe so.

Baez is getting a lot of feedback about his book, “Presumed Guilty – Casey Anthony: The Inside Story” and rightfully so. Baez is clearly trying to cash-in on this family and all of their problems. So far, it’s working out for him, but the public isn’t happy about it.

To think that Casey Anthony’s daughter could be a child of incest and to constantly be bringing it up does nothing but disrespect Caylee. At the end of the day, this is all about her and the poor child can’t even rest in peace. It’s time for the Anthony’s to go away.